Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Strawberry Banana Oatmeal Flax Seed Smoothie

I drank this as my mid morning "snack" (between breakfast and lunch.)
You should be eating every 2-3 hours so your body isn't going into starvation
mode and instead continues to burn fat.
This is the perfect filler when it's not quite meal time yet!

                           Ingredients:                                                                                                               Directions:
                     * water (keep adding until you get desired consistency)                                  Add all of the dry ingredients into the             
                     * 1 packet of stevia(DON'T USE SUGAR!)                                               blender. Slowly add in the water so that you don't
                     * 1 banana                                                                                                get it too runny. Blend on low just to get 
                     * 6-8 strawberries                                                                                        everything chopped up and then bump
                     * 3 Tbsp. flax seed                                                                           it up to "liquefy" until it's reached desired consistency.
                     * 1 cup oatmeal

Friday, January 27, 2012


You've got to remember that while you are obsessed with the scale and the results you're getting, the way to a healthier body/keeping it there is replacing fat with muscle. So many women are terrified to lift weights because they think Masses of metal+Lifting=BULK. I promise that you will not become a body builder if you lift weights in moderation and do it properly. Would you rather be at your goal weight and still have a pooch and thighs that need firming, or finally have the body you've been working hard for and still weigh 10-15lbs more than your goal weight? I don't know about you but I'm going with the second option. So while YES it is discouraging to step on the scale and see you haven't lost anything or have even gained, keep track of your inches to stay motivated. (you WILL still lose weight if you exercise and eat right I'm not telling you that you will stop losing weight if you lift metal.)

Another thing I wanted to share with you that has helped me is the Live Strong website . If you sign up (it's free!) there are awesome features such as MyPlate which helps you track your daily calorie intake and will list all of the nutrition facts of the item you ate so you know whether you need more protein or carbs etc. You can also log your fitness routine which will keep track of progresss and inform you of how many calories you burned during the workout. There are recipes, success stories, fitness libraries, information on what foods are best for you and the list goes on! Seriously, go sign up and use the crap out of it! 

I started out by needing to lose 78-80lbs in order to not be considered "obese" for my height and have reduced that number to 40. I can tell I've lost weight but at times it doesn't feel like it's been a significant amount and I get down in the dumps. But when I compare 80 lbs to 40...well it seems like NOTHING! Just keep reminding yourself that EVERY little bit counts! Stay focused and get back on track.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Getting Educated.

You are probably thinking that I'm so vain for posting a picture of my sexy shoes and ankles right bout now...okay kidding. But I have wanted a pair of these shoes FOREVER (Nike free 3.0). I finally got a pair and I can stand here and tell you they are the most COMFORTABLE walking/running shoe ever invented. They make me feel like I'm walking on clouds..even my slippers weigh more than these things. If you need a new pair of tennies, this is a good route to go!..now onto business!

I can't believe how long it's been since I've had something to say about my weight loss journey! As many of you know, my success thus far has come from not eating refined sugar or starches. I eat smallish portions every 2-3 hours, don't eat past 7:30 pm, and try to balance out my daily intake of protein/carbs/fiber. So just to update you all, I joined an indoor soccer team a few weeks ago and we had our first game last week. Tonight is our second game and I'm feeling nervous yet giddy all over again. I can't even begin to explain the thrill that rushed through me during last weeks game...I forgot how great it felt to play sports! Which is why I decided to start exercising again regularly.

So because I've decided to start working out again, I need to really make sure my body is getting enough calories and nutrients so that I'm still losing weight in a healthy manor. I've started researching certain foods  and finding out why they are/aren't good for you. Two things in particular that I have not been eating are bread and pasta. I know that people say to eat whole wheat if you are going to eat it at all...but WHY? Having the very curious mind that I do, I decided to research it and see what I found. Of course I was in WAY over my head and didn't understand half of the lingo these doctors and dietitians were throwing out there but thankfully came across this site that broke it down PERFECTLY!  Whole Grain Scam not only explained things to me thoroughly, but gave me the knowledge of what to be looking for! I've never been crazy about bread and pasta, but for those of you who are I needed to share this to show you a healthier option if it's something you refuse to cut from your diet.

Thirdly it is SO important for you to be getting at least 30 minutes of exercise daily. It doesn't have to be going to the gym and sticking out some ridiculous routine..just go for an upbeat walk! Even before I decided to get into my whole exercise routine again, I still tried to go on walks or do anything to help burn calories and get active. The other day I was browsing Netflix and was stoked to see they added a "sports and fitness" section! One reason I stopped doing P90X was because we have people living below us and I was constantly jumping or kicking BUT with the Pilates sessions on Netflix I have not had to jump once! Finally something that doesn't make it sound like I should be shouting "Fee-Fi-Fo-Fum!"

Anyway, I hope all of YOU are doing well and staying strong! It really helps to get educated about what you are putting into your body as 80% of your health is what you EAT! If you are not ready to get active just yet that is fine..keep taking things one step at a time. I will however leave you with a challenge this week...try drinking ONLY water for the next week and no added/refined sugars. Yes, this means no soda, no candy, no sugary cereal...the only sugar you should be getting is from your fruits and veggies! Let me know how you do =]

Monday, January 16, 2012

What I know to be true of parenting.

I'm not the child whisperer by any means, but I thought I'd write a blog post on what disciplinary actions Stephen and I take with Malachi, and what has/hasn't worked. One thing that has always angered me, is when people mock what I or my husband say to Malachi. We fully understand that he is "only" 2 years old but that's exactly it. Too many people underestimate their kids because of their ages.

Stephen and I started explaining things to Malachi (in simple terms) at about one year of age. If he gets in trouble for something, we explain to him what he did wrong and why it's not okay. Not only do we thoroughly explain things to him, we get down on HIS level and make him look us in the eyes. You shouldn't be yelling your point across every 5 minutes at them. We are around our son enough to know that he knows what his limits are. Kids will be kids and they are GOING TO test their limits, which is why you ABSOLUTELY have to be consistent. There is nothing more frustrating than being in public and hearing other parents threaten to take action if the mishap occurs again, and as it usually does, they don't follow through. Your kid(s) will walk all over you if you allow them to.

One of the biggest things parents are scared of is being too strict and making their kids hate/resent them. I strongly believe that kids only hate/resent their parents when there is an absence of LOVE.  Don't try to be your kid's best friend because it's just not healthy, you don't have to give your child everything they want in order to make them love you back.

I'm done with my little rant and our son is not perfect but he's well behaved for the most part so if you are still curious here is a little list of things we do and DON'T do:
  • When he DOES do something wrong, we don't wait to address it. This way it's still fresh in his mind.
  • What daddy says, goes. we don't play the favorites/spouse betrayal game.
  • When he does something right or kind, he gets rewarded to help influence more good behavior
  • When he does something that's not okay, he reaps the consequences(time-out, no tv/movies, etc)
  • If he makes a mess, he gets to clean it up 
  • We don't count to 3, because it gives him 3 chances to defy us and he shouldn't get more than one.
  • If he is crying/whining, we don't give him what he wants until he stops and can calmly ask for it politely.

    Just remember that even if you don't agree with some of the things WE do,  know that we have at least one thing right, and that is consistency. There isn't one set way to parent, so also keep in mind that if what you are doing ISN'T working, it's time to try something new. Stay inspired and hug your little ones tonight.

Monday, January 9, 2012

3 and counting...

I don't even really know where to begin this post...but I can tell you what it's about.
The subject of marriage is always weighing on my heart...and Idk if that's
because I feel a calling to actually help other people through tough times in their marriage...
or if I'm supposed to be on the prayer end of things. Either way I hate divorce
and wish all people did as much as I do. I'm not saying that I think some people LIKE it,
but it seems that way when they hardly even try to stop it Or say things like"it's beyond
fixing"...you are putting limits on God's power when you give into those lies.

My parents celebrated their 24th wedding anniversary quite recently.
The card that I picked out for them said many things in which I agreed, but one thing
in particular that stood out was "The value of a marriage is not
measured in years, but in the lives that you've impacted as a couple, and the distance
in which you've come since day one." I happen to be one of those optimistic
people who believe every anniversary is something to celebrate and make a deal out of!
You get one day per year to celebrate your spiritual growth that has in return
added depth and growth to your marriage..WHY NOT BE PROUD OF IT?!

March 14 2012 will mark the 3rd year of Stephen and I choosing to become one.
Some people still consider us "newly weds or youngins" which yes pisses me off
NOT because I'm ignorant and think I know it all.
But because he and I have already been through more rough patches and transformation
than most couples see in the first 30 years. I don't like it when people put labels on you or your marriage that
make you seem insignificant because of a number.I feel like we've been married for 60 years
at times =]  My ridiculous attraction to him grows stronger all of the time and not
because of his looks.

I laugh at the two utterly stupid and STUBBORN young teenagers we were
when life smacked us in the face with some heavy decisions. I wouldn't be surprised
if people took bets on how long we'd last. Two couples who tried to help us the most
were James and Amanda Berteig(from the very start of things), and Jack and Shelly Shumate(from
our turning point on.) I will apologize over and over from the bottom of my heart
for thinking we knew what we were doing and disregarding your advice because
it wasn't what we wanted to hear. I'm REALLY sorry for the pain in the butt that I was.

My husband is my best friend which at first I thought meant I didn't have a life
but soon realized that it's a good thing and not something to be ashamed of. Our pivoting point
really started to happen when we went through the Love And Respect material with
some other couples of our church. Just listening and discussing the material itself is not
what changed our marriage, it was applying everything we learned and taking the initiative
to take those steps forward.

If you have a desire for your marriage to succeed, God will deliver.
If you think your marriage can't be fixed, you're doubting God.
If you think your spouse is the only/biggest reason your marriage is going down
the drain, you need to realize it takes TWO.
If you're seeking counsel from someone who's marriage is not where
you want yours to be, strongly acknowledge that.

The second that you start to look at your spouse through
Christ's eyes you will view them in a different light which will alter the way
you normally treat them and respond to them. When you learn how to love your
spouse unconditionally as Christ loves us you will unlock new doors
that lead to growth and compassion.

Marriage is HARD and not meant to be endured on your own strength. 
It is a TEAM sport and not for lazy people who enter into the course because
of a fleeting feeling. Just loving someone will not get you through the toughest times, it takes

I hope anyone who reads this leaves encouraged and not judged, for that was not my heart.
If you make divorce an option, it will always be there tempting you. If you
don't make it an option, you will do whatever it takes to see things through.

This song was mine and Stephen's promise to each other as we lit our unity candle
nearly 3 years ago...and I still mean EVERY word of it. I love you =]

Wednesday, January 4, 2012

Do what you love, love what you do....

This is a picture of my little family...my little family that hasn't always felt like a family.

Many of you know that Stephen is in the Army whether either of us like it or not. I dated/married him knowing what I was putting myself up against...but at the same time not really. When I said "I Do"
I knew Stephen would be gone in a month, absent for the first year of our marriage, and better yet..absent for
the first 7 months of Malachi's life. No matter how much I told myself "you can do this" I was not
prepared. I don't think you can ever truly prepare yourself for a long leap of absence from the love of your life. If anything...I showed my sister in law what kind of wife NOT to be while your husband is overseas.

I've never been your typical extremely supportive military wife, and to be honest that's because I'm just not.
There are some women who manage to give a crap about the FRG, yellow ribbon events,
hanging out with the other military wives having bonding time, dining outs, and any kind of other event the
Alpha Company would host. To some, that makes me a bad wife but I have never wanted to be more involved with the military than what I already had to be just by being married to a soldier.

There's me, and then there are women who are strong as nails and know how to make the best out of their
husband's commitment. Some men actually enjoy their time serving and that is GREAT if
you still find joy in this..I'm truly happy for you because it's not easy.
But Stephen and I are both on the same page when I say
that his 6 year contract has been hell and these next 6 months could not go by quicker.

I've been dreading February because his last 2 week annual training takes place that month and to top it off
he'll be out of country. I'm trying to be happy for him that he get's to be in a beautiful country but
both of us know how stupid it's going to be and they probably won't even get time to have fun.
 I keep telling myself that yes it's two weeks BUT it's the last A/T EVER so just smile and breathe.

It just feels GREAT knowing our last hurdle to get over is only a month away! I'm excited for
new possibilities once his contract comes to an end. Some civilians will never understand (until
they're faced with the same situation) what it's like to have the government own your spouse.
Having a few hundred dollars less each month might suck a little at first but it'll be worth it.

Our life as a family feels like it's just starting..we are finally getting that fresh start we needed.
So cheers to 2012 and new beginnings/adventures!

p.s. this post is not meant to be disrespectful, just transparent and real about the hell hole our lives have been...mainly Stephen's.